twice as dangerous and twice as hard to recognize.

Destructive ego states our born out of abusive and neglectful conditions that we had to adopt to while our brains where forming. As you mature you learn to use this side of you to protect you, not over protect you, not abuse you and other

s. You gain control out of destructive ego states as you replace them with more life affirming, balanced, resourceful, loving yet stable ways of dealing with life. First you have to know your resources and self. Do not use funhouse mirrors to reflect you. That is, you need to have emotionally accessible, emotionally healthy and emotionally mature people in your emotional life. Not pseudo mature, not pseudo emotionally healthy, not pseudo emotionally accessible. Such people are dangerous, they covered up their Destructive ego states, this makes them twice as dangerous and twice as hard to recognize.