Metaphorically

Metaphorically, instead of curing cancer our system has become cancer adjusting to cancer. Success is based on who can be the most poisonous while looking like a remedy. We turn ourselves into disease to adjust to a system that is disease stricken. If we want to fix and more fully perfect ourselves in the system we must be a cure for the disease and not be the illness. Illness is here a metaphor for short-term common success. You might think that you can play the game like the rest, fool your self, tell your self that you found a loophole , that you are an inoculation or that you are inoculated but you have become part of the false promise, part of the false cure that is worse than the disease. Copyright © 2017 Anthony Cavuoti, All Rights Reserved

The degree to which the parent is ripened as an authentic individual is the degree to which both child and parent derive satisfaction and personal growth out of their exchanges.

Too often we here in our culture how much parents sacrificed for their children. Then later in life how much the adult children need to be indebted to their parents for all that the parents gave up for them. I once heard it said by a professor in a grad school family counseling course that even if the parent is emotionally neglectful of the child and or emotionally abusive to the child due to the parent’s narcissism or other mental health issues, the parents still sacrificed a great deal of themselves for the child. Phrases such as sacrificed and gave up, clearly indicates a one-sidedness, that overall the parent lost something, and the child gained something more in this exchange. The term reciprocity more accurately reflects the true state of this child parent relationship where both mutually benefit. What is remarkable is that most modern culture still see the parent child relationship as a monumental sacrifice on the parents’ behalf. It is a monumental responsibility yes, to experience it as a sacrifice completely misses the mark, it fails to appreciate how much joy, intrinsic fulfillment, potential transformative awareness and emotional growth the parent derives from their day to day caring for and interacting with their child, with their toddler, with this being that is new to this world, with his or her innocence where everything is new once again, in their precocious forming nature, in that short time when the clear fount of life itself spontaneously expresses its uniqueness with abundantly less of the distortions of society and culture. The degree to which the parent is ripened as an authentic individual is the degree to which both child and parent derive satisfaction and personal growth out of their exchanges. As parents, as caregivers this experience nurtures our inner most being on the deepest levels so profoundly that it is in affable, it receives minimum recognition and appreciation by society. The healthier the interactions on the parents behalf the more both child and parent(s) acquire out of this relationship and the less it is experienced as a sacrifice on the parents behalf and more as an honor.