Hate is the problem

When I taught an anger management class it was not so much anger that was the problem instead it was hate.   How do you manage hate? You can’t.  It is like managing a virus.  Empathy is what is needed, for them, to counter the lack of love, to counter the  lack of real respect in their  development, as well as in their current life. Also many make it an art of being with people who hate, working with people that hate, encircling them selves with hate over kindness.  In fact it seemed as if the more they hated the more they got attention from their dysfunctional circle.   Many of them broke this pattern by learning to be with their children, loving them instead of being indifferent to them, instead of overly controlling them.  Of course you know this took much effort, much time, and much patients.