When I taught an anger management class it was not so much anger that
was the problem instead it was hate. How do you manage hate? You
can’t. It is like managing a virus. Empathy is what is needed, for
them, to counter the lack of love, to counter the lack of real respect in
their development, as well as in their current life. Also many make it an
art of being with people who hate, working with people that hate, encircling
them selves with hate over kindness. In fact it seemed as if the more
they hated the more they got attention from their dysfunctional circle.
Many of them broke this pattern by learning to be with their
children, loving them instead of being indifferent to them, instead of overly
controlling them. Of course you know this took much effort, much time,
and much patients.
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