In such families,

In such families, with such parents, emotional reactions, even more, the expression of genuine feelings from their children, even as adults, adult children are followed up ( from within) with great shame, guilt and panic. There are unspoken rules against being an autonomous being with your own desires, direction, purpose and identity. Such rules have become internalized. Awareness, staying aware of this and not being shamed to conform or shamed to fall asleep. This is a start for freeing your self. If you do not get this you are an abuser of the worse kind, unfriend me, and piss off!