they see it and work hard not to be it

For the past 30 years I have work with many people that where abused as children, even worse than abuse is neglect. Our minds formed out of this abuse, this neglect; it becomes part of us. Once the lights are on and you see it, many people change, they see it and work hard not to be it, you no longer identify with the forces that shape shaped you, abused you. . Sadly many destroy the light, and willfully remain in the dark where they abuse others as they where abused.